As for an anchor I have been using 6' of plastic coated steel anchor chain (reduces scratches) hooked up to a Fortress FX-11 Danforth anchor. Last weekend it held the boat down perfectly in a 35 knot Northerly for 6 hours. It is a nice lightweight anchor that seems to work well on the J/30.
As for a head mine came with a Jabsco that works great.